Feature

Depression And Your Relationships

by

Richard L. Naran

Feedback is most important to determining direction. What most concerns you the readers of this site is the balancing of depression and relationships. You have spoken and I have heard. In a way this is good because that is what my books center on. When you think about it life is about your relationships. While depression adds to the strain of maintaining relationships, the keys are you and I, the people involved. This holds true for all your relationships whether marriage, family, relatives or friends.

 

About the signs

Stop me if you have ever lived this. You're driving with an eye on traffic and your passenger is serving as your navigator. Suddenly, the person asks "What was the name for that exit again?" You say it and the person tells you, we just passed it. When it comes to the signs of depression both parties in the relationship have to be navigators. Awareness shared is a powerful force for both of you.

Personal awareness

Is not just for the person who suffers from depression. It is for the person or persons that shares in life with them as well. For each is a partner in the relationship. Each has to do their part because it is "your" relationship. Having a handle on what is happening to you emotionally is crucial to your relationship bond. Know your limits. Know the difference between taking a break and pushing away. This is as important as staying with the bottomline of knowing you care. It is because you care you are in the relationship.

 

Why a life support system

When you feel (A), what can take place to round things out to a better place? Remember, no solution is a solution if it is only about you. It has to be about both of you. There can be no exclusions. A friend of mine who is bi-polar says his episodes are family events. They all communicate when the signs are displayed. Each one has their role including my friend who has the problem. Through the years with the help of a very intricate family support system the episodes have been less severe and decreased in events. He proudly reports this family system has made him less dependent on medication as well. He meds are there as a back up insurance and not a reliance at this point in his life. As he points out, this is not about the me, it is all about the you and me.

 

The What and the Why

Your life is about your relationships. Your relationships have to be placed in the frame of "you and me." You don't suffer depression. They don't suffer depression. We suffer because of depression. To preserve any of your relationships requires work and effort. If your love is special then working together to combat depression is the proof of the truth your love binds your relationship.

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The books

If you would like to explore more about how this works:

Talking to Depression by Claudia Strauss Click here

also

My own

Depression Caring Coping Loving Sharing Surviving Relationships

and

101 Living Tips For Those Who Suffer Depression

And Those Who Care

Click Here.

 

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